Not talking about how you’re feeling, and your emotions, can be a killer.
Suicide is the biggest killer of young men, more than road accidents, cancer and coronary heart disease put together. In the 2013 ONS statistics, 78% of suicides were men.
Men don’t talk about their feelings or their emotions. Women also suffer but are far more likely to seek help. Men will often self-medicate with alcohol, drugs, or both.
Therapy is an excellent way of dealing with the underlying causes of depression. Anyone who is plunged into the depths of depression obviously needs to seek expert medical help. This can be done via your G.P. or there are many excellent organisations that are set up to help specifically with this issue, MIND and CALM (campaign against living miserably) are only two of them.
Before matters reach this rock bottom stage, help can be sought through a therapist who may be able to help you seek your way out of the bleakness that surrounds you when you are suffering in this way.
Men will very rarely meet their friends and seek advice or help with any issues that may be going on in their lives. They won’t pick up the phone or let anyone know what’s going on inside their heads. Our society has shaped us to think that it isn’t ‘manly’ to do such things, and are embarrassed about talking about themselves.
There are many high profile campaigns out there aimed at men, for example, testicular cancer, prostate cancer, driving safely, drink driving, but not so much about addressing depression in men. There needs to be a shift in this ethos that men should hide how they feel.
Talking about your problems and seeking help to change things really can make a huge improvement in the quality of your life.
So men – It’s good to talk!
If there are any issues you would like to discuss, contact me for an initial consultation which is free of charge, to find out if I can help. All therapy is totally confidential and a space for you to release the demons that are plaguing you inside your head.